I got it wired properly now, added ground at pin 4 and jumped the high beam power to the xenon shutter (high beam will be xenon open shutter plus halogen inner bulb). The xenon lights for a half second before CEM codes and shuts it off. Will check circuit draw halogen vs the initial surge on xenon and figure out if I need to add a capacitor to deal with surge or a resistor to add load.
Still wonder if there is a setting in vdash to change halogen to xenon, didn't see an obvious way to do it.